To build a life you love you must first understand yourself

If you’re reading this, one or more of the following probably apply to you: 

👉You wake up dreading the day ahead, stuck in a routine that feels meaningless.

👉You feel disconnected from the world, wondering if this is all there is.

👉You’re constantly tired and drained, with little energy left for yourself or loved ones.

👉You struggle with self-doubt, lacking confidence in your decisions and direction.

👉It feels like you’re merely existing, not truly living. Breathing, but not alive. Moving through each day on autopilot, as if life is happening to you rather than for you. Like you’re just going through the motions in a life that doesn’t even feel like yours.

There was a time I felt the same. You are not alone. 

The unspoken truth is that the majority of us live a life of quiet desperation, hoping that one day it’ll magically get better. But it won’t!

Nothing changes until you change.  Fortunately, being aware of these feelings is the first step to improving your situation.

Do you feel like life is passing you by? 

There was a time when that’s exactly how I felt.

I did everything “they” told me would make be successful and happy.

✅I did well at school.

✅Went to university and aced my classes.

✅Got a job in the heart of London and got paid handsomely for it.

On the outside, I was doing good. But there was a problem. A big problem.

I wasn’t happy.

Does the road you’re on lead to where you want to go?

I remember thinking, is this it? Is this what the next 50 years of my life will look like? It was a real depressing thought!

What’s worse is that career wise, I didn’t fancy the lives of the people ahead of me neither! Yet that my trajectory. 

So I did what most people do. I buried my head in the sand, starting with good old-fashioned materialism to fill the void.

Every week I’d be buying something new. The latest tech gadgets, gizmos, clothes and shoes

It worked for a while, but it didn’t last. So, rather than buying new things, I turned to new experiences:

👉Nights out

👉Several holidays

👉Serial dating

And that too worked for a while, but it also never lasted. I felt empty as ever.

The problem 

I was building a life I didn’t want. Or put another way, I was going down a road that I didn’t want to travel. 

Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t terrible. And many people would consider it a good life, but it wasn’t what I wanted for myself.

I dreamt of something different. 

✅Work I was passionate about.

✅More flexibility

✅The ability to live and travel wherever I wanted.

✅And most importantly, the time to do the things I love, and spend it with the people I care for.

Work was consuming too much of my time. 9.5 hour days plus 2 or 3 hours in total commute time. By the time I got home, I was toast. 

My usual after work routine was to eat dinner and watch Netflix before going to bed and repeating it all again the next day.

Before I knew it, all I was doing was gym and work. My hobbies and interests disappeared into “tomorrow” which became “one day” soon after.

📍Where are you now? 

Has your life turned out how you thought it would? 
Are you living the life you so diligently planned for?

Perhaps you feel like you’re stuck in a routine that feels more like surviving than thriving?

Or maybe you’re successful on paper, but deep down, something feels… off.

We only get one shot at this thing called life, one shot to create memories we’d love.

A life that excites us, challenges us, and fulfils us. There will be no re-runs, life is what YOU make of it and ultimately what we don’t change, we’re choosing.

If any of this resonates with you, it’s time to take back control. Control that you’ve always had but perhaps haven’t exercised to the best of your ability. 

“Wherever you are in life, at one point you made an appointment to be there”
-Les Brown

Or put another way, you’re where you are because of the accumulation of all your decisions up until this point.

The good news is that by changing your choices your life can be drastically different.